Dear Athena,

My penis size is 4.5 inches and my duration is short. How can I increase both?

Longer and Bigger, Please

Dear Athena,

My penis is so small. I'm embarrassed. How can I make it bigger?

Ashamed of My Size

Dear Athena,

My penis size is just 2 inches, and I worry about that so much. I worry that I can't satisfy any girl properly. Please help. Any suggestions on what to do?

Small and Scared

To the Penis Posse,

Is it something about the holidays? I received a number of messages over the last few weeks from men who are dissatisfied with the size of their penis. While I generally support change and growth in the New Year, sometimes you have to live with what you've got. Let's make 2015 about personal progress, not penis-size perfection. Focus on how you feel about yourself, not how you look.

I'm not going to lie: Penis size does matter ... a little bit. For some, it matters a lot — and you don't want those people for partners. You should want someone who accepts you just as you are. Good sex isn't about the size of the little mister; it's about your confidence. And trust me, the biggest turn-on is being with someone who takes great pleasure in giving pleasure — and knows how to do it.

There are so many ways to make someone feel good. You can become a master of massage or oral sex. You can cuddle, bathe together, make out, hold hands. These are often overlooked but really effective turn-ons. A man who is receptive to his partner's needs is far sexier than a guy who only has a big dick going for him.

Regarding duration (which has nothing to do with penis size): If you want to last longer in bed, slow down. Take your time with foreplay and intercourse. When you find yourself getting excited and picking up the pace, take a breath and dial it down. Draw the whole delicious ordeal out for as long as you both can stand it.

Also, here's a funny tip: You can exercise your penis when you pee. Stopping the flow of your urine mid-stream strengthens the same muscles that keep you from losing it too soon in bed. Masturbation helps, too. Get to know when you are about to ejaculate — then stop. It's tough, but it's been known to help.

Desperate men have turned to penis pumps, jelqing (an ancient form of repetitive penis massage), pills and even penis-enlargement surgery — none of which I'd advise. These won't solve your self-esteem issues. In addition to the above, focus on whole-body wellness through exercise, or therapy if necessary. When you're positive and healthy, you'll feel good. And when you feel good, you look good, too.

Yours,

Athena