Dear Athena,

When I'm having a moment to myself (wink, wink), I often feel like I just peed myself. Was that an orgasm, or did I actually pee? And why did it happen so fast? It was like a big flow of liquid coming out.

Signed,

Wet the Bed

Dear Wet,

Don't sweat it! I've covered this territory before, and that's no surprise, since this is a totally common query. Check out my response to "Pee Disaster" (October 8, 2014). You'll get some insight into another reader's stress and confusion about a similar situation. So to you and all the other ladies who might be wondering what's going on when the juices are flowing: Read on for a refresher.

You probably didn't pee. But, just to be sure, did it smell like urine? Did you have to pee before you got busy with yourself? If you did, no worries — accidents happen, after all. You must have had to go pretty badly but got distracted by the good feelings going on down there. The last thing you wanted to do was stop for a potty break. If incontinence is an issue for you, try exercising your pelvic floor muscles by practicing kegels. You can practice by pretending to start and stop the flow of pee. It will encourage the muscles to be strong and tight. Give it a try. You'll feel results quickly.

But what most likely occurred was a bit of harmless squirting. Squirting is when a woman releases fluid around the urethra. It's often confused with urine, as it feels quite similar. But here's the awesome part: The release of that liquid, similar to the release of sperm in a guy, is a result of intense G-spot stimulation. So whatever it was you were doing, you were doing it right.

Don't let this incident throw you off your masturbation game. Keep exploring ways to make yourself feel super stimulated. It'll come in handy the next time you're getting it on with someone other than yourself, because then you'll be the best kind of tour guide.

Yours,

Athena