Dear Athena,

Are there side effects to giving a hand job every day?

Thank you,

Handy

Dear Handy,

First, let me say this: The recipient of these regularly scheduled pleasure sessions is a pretty lucky guy! Who wouldn't want some of that action on a daily basis?

I'm hoping these routine hand jobs are something you enjoy. Because the first potential side effect of this regimen is resentment, if you aren't having fun. It's normal to make sacrifices for your partner, whether it's pulling an all-nighter to help him with a work presentation or tolerating his obnoxious dog sleeping on the bed. But if giving a daily hand job feels like a sacrifice — or if it makes you feel degraded, taken advantage of or just plain bored — you need to speak up and make a change. This is especially important if you feel that you're being forced to give them in any way. If so, get out of that situation fast.

And I do hope you're getting pleasured in return. It would be a shame if you were the only one doling out sexual gestures. Even if you love performing a hand job every day, it's not fair or cool for you to do all the work. It's not called a "job" for nothing!

Aside from that, this routine could eventually get stale — for both of you. Regular hand jobs could reduce his drive for actual, two-way sex. In any event, it could be nice to mix things up. Maybe you could role-play or get handsy in the bathtub. Adventure is the spice of life.

The only other side effect, for you, might be a function of repetitive motion. If you begin to feel pain in your wrist, get medical advice on how to treat it. You may have to take a break from the activity until you're fully healed, or the problem could get worse.

For all of your handiwork — pun intended — I hope your partner is expressing major gratitude.

Yours,

Athena