My boyfriend and I are thinking about hooking up with another couple. Neither of us has ever done the swinging thing, but were curious to see what its about. Problem is, Im really in love with him, and I worry that well feel insecure or jealous. I think Id be OK, but I guess you never know. And I dont want him to think I would ever cheat on him (unless, of course, were all in the same room).
Any advice for the best way to deal with the situation? And why arent there more normal, decent-looking couples like us looking for group sex?
Maintaining a healthy relationship while swinging is possible, but youre smart to be thinking about consequences ahead of time. Too many couples get burned when they barrel into nonmonogamy without doing the necessary prep work.
Before you have sex with another couple, talk to your partner like, really talk. Discuss why youre seeking pleasure outside of your relationship, and make sure it isnt because either of you is unhappy a recipe for swinging disaster. As an exercise, imagine how each of you will feel when the first foursome encounter is over. What will you say to one another? How will you reconnect as a couple? You can stop worrying that youll feel insecure or jealous you probably will. The question is, how will you deal with those emotions as a couple?
When youre ready to find a willing couple, the internet is your friend. Living in Vermont has many perks, but a loud and proud swinging community isnt one them you have to seek out the community online. And dont forget our kink-friendly neighbors to the north. Montréal is just a short drive away and offers a multitude of options for pleasure seekers of every stripe. Swinging in members-only clubs is legal there, and the clubs are easy to find by searching the web. Just remember to bring your passport and plenty of protection.
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