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Published November 2, 2011 at 12:00 p.m.

Dear Mistress,

I feel like I'm losing my husband to texting. I'm actually concerned his thumbs might fall off. I'm not opposed to technology, but I feel that if you're home in bed with your wife, there are other things that you should be doing rather than texting a complete novel to your friends. I have mentioned before how it upsets me, but I just woke up (on what should have been a very sexy morning) to him clacking away to his friends and co-workers. To make matters worse, he pretended like he had just woken up... as if he wasn't just checking his phone AGAIN! 

Help me, Mistress; I'm losing my battle against the machine.


Losing It to the Tech

Dear L.I.T.T.T.,

It's time to set some serious ground rules with your text-hungry husband. Don't get me wrong, I love technology as much as the next gal, but I have a strict no-phone policy in bed. Your bed is the most intimate of places, and it shouldn't be shared with friends or coworkers - at least not via text message. It's time to address this issue head on, before it creates a firewall between you.

Have a heart-to-heart with your hubby and tell him how his texting is affecting you. Let him know that you understand that he loves technology, and that you're not asking him to go back to a flip phone - you just want to agree on time that's exclusively for the two of you. Ask him to turn the phone off (or put it away in a drawer) when you're in bed together. Your relationship needs that time to refuel, and his phone is getting in the way. You may even consider asking him for one night per week when he puts the phone aside and focuses on a more old-fashioned way of communicating with his hands, if you know what I mean...

If he loves you and honors your relationship, he should be able to meet these very reasonable requests. If not, you may have to say "C U L8TR."

Tech savvy,