I am a gay man, and I really like it up the butt. For the first twenty-eight years of my life, my sexual encounters have been few and far between, and I have never been in a relationship.
I recently became involved in a monogamous relationship with a really nice guy. He seems too good to be true, and the sex is so hot. His penis is definitely above average, and we have sex multiple times per week. Recently, one of my girlfriends scared me by saying that as I get older, I'm doomed to suffer anal incontinence, rectal cancer and/or having my rectum turning inside out from all this anal sex. I don't want to believe her, but I would like to know the ramifications of getting rammed in the anal orifice so frequently?
Mr. Stick It In
Dear Mr. Stick It In,
The good news is you've found a good guy with an ample member willing to satiate your appetite for up-the-bum delights. The bad news is, you have a majorly misinformed friend.
According to Tristan Taormino - creator of Tristan Taormino's Expert Guide to Anal Sex (Vivid/Smart Ass Productions, 2007) and author of The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women (Cleis Press, 1997/2006) - when done slowly and with plenty of lube, anal sex is just as safe as any other kind of penetration. Taormino goes further to say that anal sex can actually be good for your butt. She says, "The more you practice controlling and relaxing your sphincter muscles, the more you are exercising and toning them (just like any other muscle) as well as increasing blood flow to the area, all of which can improve the health of your ass."
Other reputable sources site that, although rare, anal incontinence can occur after prolonged injury to the internal sphincter - meaning that insertion would have to be perpetually forceful, without regard for the receiving partner's comfort level.
Thus, as long as you're listening to your body, taking it slowly and using lots of lubrication, you're cleared for as much ramming as your ass can handle.
Ms. Stick It In,