I have a question about sex and my period. I am a single, sexually active, thirtysomething woman, often juggling two casual partners at once (I like to keep things interesting). Inevitably, one of the guys Im sleeping with will proposition me when I have my period. If the proposition comes via text message, its easy to just say Im busy tonight, lets meet up next weekend. However, if Im out with the guy, its more difficult to rebuff his advances without giving him a concrete reason and this is where I get awkward. Do I tell him that Im on the rag? That just seems crude! But Im worried that if I just give him a brush-off answer I have to wake up earlier, Im tired, etc. hell think Im not into him. Further, Ive had guys say, I dont care, we can still do it. Im like, What?! These guys are not my boyfriends, and sex on my period seems too intimate. What do you think?
What do I think? I think its all about what you think. If sex while Aunt Flos in town feels too intimate, dont do it. Period sex can be messy, leaving you feeling vulnerable and forcing an intimacy that youre not seeking in these casual relationships. That said, if you can shed the vulnerability with a guy whos into it, period sex can be extremely satisfying. Many women report being at their horniest during menstruation, and orgasms are said to alleviate cramps sure beats poppin ibuprofen. Just be sure to lay a dark towel down and have some wet wipes close by.
As for communicating your cycle, Ive always been a fan of being blunt. If saying, Im on the rag feels too brazen, try a simple, Its not a good time of the month which will surely get your point across. At the same time, keep in mind that you dont have to give a good reason why you dont want to have sex. Regardless of how many times youve slept with a guy in the past, youre never obligated to put out.
Spread your wings,