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Ask Athena: Looking for Sex, Looking for Love

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It's another doubleheader Ask Athena! Two people are on a search, but for very different kinds of treasure.

Dear Athena,

I want to meet as many hot chicks as possible and have as much sex as possible. Not to be weird, but I only lost my virginity when I was in my mid-twenties, and I feel like I want to make up for lost time. Is that bad behavior? I want to have a lot of sex, because now that I have done it, it's all I want. How can I make this happen?

Signed,

Horny Dude

Dear Horny,

Take a deep breath, Dude. So you want to get busy — I dig it. There's nothing wrong with some no-strings-attached action. To each his or her own, right? What does constitute as "bad behavior," or just straight-up prick protocol, is leading someone on. Don't sleep with a woman and then act all surprised if she wants to cuddle or go steady the next day — like you didn't know that was a possibility. Sex doesn't have to lead to a relationship, or even be terribly meaningful, but you don't have to be inconsiderate about it.

When you get close to a new potential sex partner, share your intentions pronto. Be clear and kind about what you're looking for, and you should still get plenty of booty. Have fun, and don't forget to practice safe sex!

Yours,

Athena

Dear Athena,

I want to know if there is a place or places in Burlington where a man who would like to meet pre-op male-to-female transsexuals might accomplish that. I am an admirer (and somewhat confused about myself) and am looking for nonsexual encounters. Thank you.

Signed,

Looking

Editor's note: After hearing from several readers and the Pride Center of Vermont, it's become clear that our advice missed the mark. We regret that we failed to recognize all the possible meanings of "admirer" — including its voyeuristic connotation — and that we made the LGBTQ+ community feel at risk. This was not our intent.

We had hoped to steer an advice-seeker who expressed confusion about their own gender identity — and seemed to be looking for community — to the Pride Center for its resources and support groups. Our sincere apologies for the unintended implication that an "admirer" should seek out the center for any other reason.


Dear Looking,

One place to start is the Pride Center of Vermont on South Champlain Street. The center offers loads of resources and support groups for transsexual and gender-nonconforming people — as well as those who are confused.

And since it sounds like you're looking for more personal, very specific interactions, another good bet would be to put out a personal ad. How about one in this very paper? Maybe your M2F transsexual is reading this right now! Be creative, honest and clear in your ad. If you need help describing yourself, ask someone who knows you well for input. Offer a few more details about what you're looking for in a new friend and how you'd like to meet. Pretty soon, you could be forging new connections. Good luck!

Yours,

Athena


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