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I've Gotten So Dry 'Down There' — What Can I Do?


Published February 22, 2017 at 10:00 a.m.
Updated February 22, 2017 at 5:15 p.m.

Dear Athena,

I have gotten so dry down there in the past year, and it makes my hubby think that he doesn't make me wet because I don't find him sexually attractive. That's not an issue; I'm very attracted to him. What do I do? What is wrong?


Want to Be Wet

Dear Want to Be Wet,

Don't let a little dryness "down there" lead to a dry spell in your love life! There are many reasons you might be feeling extra-dry lately, and just as many solutions to explore.

It's good ol' estrogen that keeps the vaginal lining nice and wet. When estrogen levels are low, you produce less moisture. This can happen after childbirth, while breastfeeding or at the onset of menopause. Dryness can also be a side effect of antidepressants or allergy and cold meds. Or it could just mean you need to up your foreplay game before sexy time. However, if the dryness becomes itchy, burning or painful, you should see your ob-gyn. Not a bad idea to check in with your doc either way!

Now, back to your hubby. First, soothe his ego by sharing with him all the things above that could be leaving you high and dry — and encourage him to support you as you locate the cause. Then, consider some exciting and meaningful ways to show him that you still want him. Whether that's surprising him with a weekend away or a blow job for dessert, it's time to get creative.

Let this be a reminder to keep the love flowing, no matter what obstacles arise. As I always say, "Court your partner all the way to your last date."

And in the meantime, don't forget the lube!