I have an identical twin brother. We look exactly alike, but he happens to be wealthier and more outgoing than I am. I've been with my girlfriend for about a year, but they haven't met yet, and I'm not looking forward to introducing them. Should I be worried that she might find him more desirable than me?
Doublemint Bum (male, 29)
Dear Doublemint Bum,
I don't have much experience with this subject, so I consulted an expert: my friend who is married to an identical twin. When I asked her whether she found his brother attractive, she answered with a resounding, "No! He's a totally different person." Her brother-in-law might look just like her husband, but he doesn't possess the qualities that made her fall in love with the man she married.
To quote my all-time favorite book, The Little Prince, "It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye."
You shouldn't be any more concerned about introducing your girlfriend to your brother than you would be introducing her to a handsome and successful friend. If she were after you for your money, or thought you were a stick in the mud, she probably would have moved on a long time ago.
Of course, I could be wrong. If she does happen to put the moves on your brother, then you'll know she wasn't the one for you in the first place and you should drop her like a bad habit.
Good luck and God bless,