My girlfriend and I broke up last month, and I'm going to be alone on New Year's Eve. All of my friends are going to parties or out with their significant others. I feel like a loser. I don't want to stay at home, but I don't know what to do with myself.
Ball Dropper (male, 28)
Dear Ball Dropper,
People tend to have high expectations for New Year's Eve. They think it's got to be a glittery, dressed-up, Champagne-popping, fireworks-blasting, midnight-kissing extravaganza. Personally, I feel it's often a bit anticlimactic. It's midnight. Whoop-de-do. But I do love any reason to celebrate, and I understand where you're comin' from.
Have you asked any of your friends if you can tag along with them to a party? Don't feel weird about it; they probably figured you had plans of your own. If you don't ask, you'll never know. If you're a social media guy, how about putting it out there that you're looking for something fun to do? You're bound to get some good responses.
Flying solo on New Year's Eve — or anytime, for that matter — shouldn't make you feel like a loser. Flip that script and think about how great it is to be able to do whatever your heart desires. Take yourself out on an adventure. Get dolled up and hit the town. Swing by your favorite haunts, and you'll probably run into people you know. Or go somewhere you've never been and ring in the New Year with new pals.
Whatever you do, please remember: If you're going to be drinking, make sure you have safe transportation to and fro.
Good luck and God bless,