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I Miss My Ex-Boyfriend's Dogs



Dear Reverend,

My boyfriend and I broke up last week, and I'm moving across the country. About six months ago, he purchased two puppies. He made it very clear from the beginning that the dogs were his, but we took care of them together, and I really fell in love with them. I almost wanted to stay in the area in hopes that I could at least see the dogs once in a while. How long before I should get another dog? I already miss them so much. 

Doggone It (female, 43)

Dear Doggone It,

Saying goodbye to an adorable little fur-buddy is a lot harder than breaking up with a weird human, that's for damn sure. Having to leave not just one but two puppies — I can understand that would seem near impossible.

I don't know the reason why your relationship is ending, but moving across the country tells me that it must be a good one. Staying around just so you might see the dogs occasionally seems like a bad idea. It also seems a little "Maybe we'll get back together"-y to me, so please stick to your guns and get outta there.

A dog is a big commitment of time, money, energy and emotion. I would think you might be in a bit of a fragile state due to the breakup and the move, so it's probably best to wait a while before you adopt a pal. I can't give you a set-in-stone amount of time, but long enough to get settled into your new home and routine, and to make sure your house and yourself are truly ready to welcome a pet.

In the meantime, perhaps you could volunteer at a local shelter or rescue. They can always use a helping hand, and you would be able to give love to some dogs who really need it. Who knows? You may even meet your new fuzzy friend in the process.

Good luck and God bless,

The Reverend

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