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How Do You Make Sexual Chemistry Happen?


Published August 12, 2015 at 10:00 a.m.
Updated August 12, 2015 at 10:09 a.m.

Dear Athena,

I feel like the guy I'm dating and I don't have any sexual chemistry. But in every other way I have ever wanted, he's perfect. We haven't been together long, and at first I thought we just had to get to know each other better, but now I feel lost. In the beginning all was good, but things have shifted to boring. Every time we have sex, we end up talking about how it's not working, and we just get more uncomfortable and weird. And then there is no sexual chemistry at all. I don't know what to do. Can you give me some advice on how to make the chemistry happen?

Ms. Chemical Malfunction

Dear Ms. CM,

I'm not sure you're going to like everything I have to say about this, but here goes. Chemistry is a magical, intangible vibe between two people, and it doesn't always make sense. You can't order it online or conjure a magic spell to bring it fo