I married in my teens and, three decades later, became one of those divorcées without a clue about todays dating world and sexual protocol. I met someone new, and we engaged in an animalistic rutting session.
But there were some problems. I found his kissing to be like a Hoover trying to suck off my face, and I found him a little small and soft in the penis department. I know this was our first time and, honestly, I was comparing him to my ex. Any advice on how I can deal with my issues in this department? My ex was an incredible lover and fit me rather nicely, if you get my drift...
Feeling Like a Middle-Aged Virgin
Kudos on the rutting animalistic, indeed! Navigating the wild world of dating can be daunting for even the most seasoned dater, so cut yourself some slack. Getting back in the game after thirty years, youre bound to have some pitfalls.
The simple truth is that you and your new lover may not be sexually compatible. Dont feel badly about comparing him to your ex-husband. Once youve had a great sexual partner, anything less than earth shattering is unappealing. Your ex has done you a great favor in teaching you what works for your body, and theres no reason to settle for mediocre lovemaking. That said, dont be too hasty sex with a new partner can be awkward at first and get better as time goes on. Consider giving this guy another shot, but be ready to respectfully end things if youre still not jiving. Remember, penis size isnt everything its how he uses it (and he can address his softness issues with a medical professional).
The most important thing to remember is that this is your time to thrive. After a long-term relationship ends, its crucial to take time for yourself and enjoy being independent for a while. Ive seen many people, particularly women, jump into a new relationship too quickly after divorce. Major mistake! Its natural to miss the comfort and routine of being in a relationship, but dont accept less than the best especially if youre not compatible.
Catching your drift,